How often is the first step declaring “it can’t be fixed”?
By “fixed,” I mean fixed by conventional means, working within our habits and expectations. “Fixed” by working harder, or paying more attention, or reminding ourself not to get upset by an annoying coworker.
Many times, possibly even most of the time or all of the time, the conventional means don’t work. If they did, there wouldn’t be a problem.
Declaring “it can’t be fixed” may be the first step to actually doing something differently, reframing what’s at stake and transcending the problem.