When I was in college, I learned how to fly. My primary flight instructor was Iris Critchell, a truly inspiring teacher. Iris had flown as a WASP in the ’40s; before that, in 1936, she swam in the Berlin Summer Olympics. I remember Iris talking about the spirit of camaraderie at the olympics. Everyone there felt honored to be able to compete, to share in the exploration and celebration of what individuals and people working together can achieve. Winning, or coming in second or third, medals – these were exciting but not central. Those who did not win but who participated were proud and felt lucky to be part of the immense endeavor.
We can listen to those who participate and be enriched. Listening solely to those who win arguments doesn’t guarantee nearly as much.